The 4 Biggest Mistakes I See People Make on the Way to their Goals
Growing up, my single mother, my grandma, my young aunt, and I were on the road for years. We took our old Ford wagon and ventured from the sunny beaches of California, the lush mountains of Colorado, the dry desert of Arizona, the roaring rivers of New Mexico, to the city full of trees in Idaho, and many others in between.
Although the constant traveling was like one big adventure to my young Sagittarius self, my family was often stressed out and was always victim to our circumstances. I don’t blame them for it at all, they didn’t know any better! If they knew better, they would have done better.
But they didn’t know better, a lot of us don’t know better when it comes to the things I’m going to share with you today. And that’s okay. Because with knowledge comes empowerment and more ability to do better and to get the things that we want in our lives. Seeing my family’s struggles and experiencing a lot of the same struggles in my own life is part of what inspired me to become a professional life coach. Seeing them stressed, sad, defeated, and unable to get to the place they wanted to get to. When I got a glimpse of how to take my power back and get what I want, I jumped on it. And then I wanted to show others how to do it too.
These things I’m sharing with you today are things I wish me and my family could have learned about years ago that could have enabled us to have such better lives. These are things that are always affecting us, our happiness, our lives, and our goals.
Here’s what they are and why they don’t work well for us:
These are the four biggest mistakes I see people making on the way to their goals:
ONE is not choosing to be happy NOW on the way to their goals.
TWO is underestimating how powerful their thoughts are.
THREE is believing that they don’t have enough time.
FOUR is thinking that pleasing everyone else is sustainable.
Here’s why these tactics don’t work:
If you struggle to be happy now, you will struggle to be happy when circumstances change. Happiness is a choice, how we feel is always a choice, and we can’t pin our happiness on future events or circumstances because that’s just not how it works long-term.
Your thoughts are running through your brain all day every day. They dictate what you make events mean, then that meaning dictates our feelings, which affect our decisions and actions, which give us the results in our lives. Taking back control of our thoughts is crucial to change.
We all have the same amount of time. What matters is what we do and how we prioritize our time in those same 24 hours that everyone else has too. There are many helpful methods to doing this that can be learned and implemented.
People pleasing and putting everyone else first instead of yourself is going to lead to inevitable burnout, exhaustion, frustration, and resentment. Putting yourself first is so important for driven people who have big dreams and goals.
The good news is that there are solutions to all of these; they are all fixable and manageable. If you are looking for support with this, I invite you to book a free consultation call with me to see if I can help you.
