how to handle anything

this is the ultimate questions of all questions right?!

How do we truly become able to handle anything in our lives?

Any hardship, any change, any loss, any trauma, any sadness, any anger, any pain, any life-changing events?

I think the answer is self-connection.

If we can embrace and truly feel our feelings in their entirety, allow ourselves to emote no matter how intense and painful it can be at times, then self-soothe and re-parent ourselves, re-center - that in my opinion, is how we can handle anything.

Self-soothing and re-parenting are concepts I got from a book called How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LaPera - I talk about this book so much it’s probably annoying at this point!

But basically self-soothing is reminding yourself that you will be okay, it’s talking to yourself in a loving way like a parent would. Re-parenting and self-soothing are basically one in the same. If you can create a little list of soothing activities you can do after you embrace and welcome these intense emotions head on - even better.

Some ideas could be:

A bath

Journaling

A walk

Calling a friend

Meditating

Yoga

Yin Yoga (especially healing, is a very passive form of yoga that is all on the floor)

Watching an uplifting movie (Like the Secret on Netflix!) or a funny movie

Making tea

Cooking a delicious meal

Going for a drive

Taking a shower

The list could go on, but I’m betting you already know of activities you can do to self-soothe and to feel better after you’ve been upset.

To recap:

I think the way to handle anything is to be able to stop what you’re doing, to truly feel and lean into all of your feelings alone and in silence, to emote and express those feelings, then to watch your thoughts and comfort yourself. Then choosing something soothing or healing to do afterwards in order to seamlessly get you back to your center.

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