why we avoid sitting in silence at all costs

Because we don’t want to be alone. Because we don’t want to face our pain. Because we don’t want to face our thoughts. Because we don’t want to face our feelings. Because we don’t want to face ourselves.

Sitting in silence is, essentially, what meditating is to some degree.

Sitting in silence is also what being fully in the moment is to another degree.

Sitting in silence is the ultimate form of surrender; surrender to the present moment and all it entails, surrender to the momentum of thoughts that will come barreling in once we sit down if we don’t meditate regularly, it is the opening of the gateway into your deepest fears and negative thoughts.

Because the mind and ego feed on the momentum and input that we give it all day long, it will go crazy when we sit in silence.

This is why people love distraction oh so much.

TV, social media, being around others, calling somebody, playing around on the phone.

Have you taken the time to really sit alone in the quiet throughout your day?

Maybe inquire within and reflect - why not? There may be a million excuses that come up, but honestly I think that the biggest one is that any lingering pain we have will come charging to the surface of the waters of our minds.

When we sit in silence it is the ultimate death to the ego, and the ego is very afraid to die.

It tricks us into thinking that it is us and that we are it. It knows its’ mortality. The ego feeds off of thoughts, feeds off of emotions, feeds off of negativity.

But the soul knows its immortality, the soul loves the stillness, the silence, it is essentially us experiencing our souls when we are sitting in silence or in deep meditation *thank you Master Stephen Co.

So the ego will go to the deepest and darkest depths of your mind, play you video memories of the past that are skewed in a negative way, or video memories of the future that haven’t even happened and probably will never happen.

This is because the ego and mind will do anything to get you out of sitting in the quiet.

But when we give up all distractions - especially if we are going through a rough time emotionally - we actually begin to heal, detach, and transcend our pain and our problems.

It’s ironic because the saying really is true. “The only way out is through”.

If you ask most people if they ever sit alone in the quiet they might initially think that you’re weird. And at first it may seem that way, but actually sitting in silence is a way to go straight into any unhealed wounds and heal them at an accelerated rate.

If you can fall apart, alone, with nobody around, and with no distractions, you are feeling completely into your pain and you are allowing it to actually come to the surface instead of it being repressed inside of you where it will fester emotionally, manifest physically, and get passed down ancestrally.

And this may feel completely overwhelming at first and you may feel like you can’t do it, but I promise you that you can. This is one of the ultimate tricks to life. One of the fastest and most all-encompassing ways to heal, one of the most sure fire ways to check in with yourself and see if you are holding onto any past pain or anger.

And afterwards, after the crying that may come up, the anger that may boil your blood, after the panic attack, after the train wreck of emotions, you will feel hollowed out and healed; a little bit more each and every time.

Slowing down is something the ego never wants to do, because of the momentum. We want to go and do and see and meet and watch and eat. The list goes on. But this is the ego and the mind, again, trying to delay the inevitable reality of its mortality.

Going constantly is a yang energy imbalance, it is too much fire, it is a running away from death even though death cannot be outrun. But when we sit in silence more often, we will experience the infiniteness of our true nature, we will start to feel and experience our own souls and we will transcend the idea of death before we get old.

This is the ultimate form of detachment, this is the ultimate form of healing, this is the ultimate form of presence, this is the ultimate form of mind mastery.

So my friends, I would highly encourage you to start this practice. And start small, 15 minutes and work your way up to 30. When thoughts come in and try to drag you along into whatever dramatic story the ego has concocted, shoot the thoughts back out of your mind using your own visualization - after all energetics heavily relies upon visualization since energetics are of the unseen spirit realm.

To make the beginning of this practice easier start it in the bath, or in bed, or perhaps outside in the sun on a blanket. A place and a time and in a way that already organically and naturally invites presence and calm into your being.

And stay for whatever amount of time you set your alarm for, because a war between you and your ego will ensue. But just keep staying until you reach that state of bliss, you will know when you’ve arrived.

I hope you loved this article.